Domestic Abuse

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This has really been on my mind and I'm curious as to any advice others can give, not sympathy or understanding but any loopholes or advice.

My friend has been unhappy recently because her aunt is in an abusive relationship, being Asian the family is very close and so any suffering undegone by one member ripples and reflects on the family as a whole.

The problem is that her aunt is pregnant, with a manipulative and possibly insane/pyschotic husband, there are also the asian family pressures of family honour that is on her and its seen as very bad for women to leave their husbands especially since she had a love marriage that she pushed for, as opposed to an arranged one.

The uncle of the family who is like the head could eaisly intervene and get her out of her marriage if he wished to. It would be acceptable for him to do so, but theres also a barrier there since he has little sympathy for and feels she brought the situation on herself.

I was wondering if anybody could think of a way out of this situation for my friends aunt. Also here's an article I found which I thought might help in understanding the situation she is in.

http://campusapps.fullerton.edu/n...earch/2004/breaking_barriers.html
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Yami no Kaze · Posted: Sun May 27, 2007 3:19 am Post subject:

it took me quite a while so i'm very sorry. i really wasn't sure what to say to this. it's difficult because i'm unfamiliar with your laws there. being that she's asian there's not a good chance that she'll listen, but i would say to do your utmost at convincig her to leave him. Try to explain that she needs to leave for her childrens sake if not her own. that might convince her. that's how i convinced my friend to leave. see she's probably only thinking about herself. she can take the abuse but she's not concidering that her child, when born, will probably get abused too. talk to her about it in the sense that you're trying to help her. asians are very family oriented and emphases on children may work.

again i'm really sorry it took so long to come up with this. it's a very difficult toppic.

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